Triple Talaq – a practical view
My driver in Kolcutta 2 days back was a frail middle aged man. From the Airport, a couple of times i egged him to go faster in somewhat empty roads since i was getting late for the dinner i was supposed to attend.
He refused sternly saying 60 kmph is the limit prescribed. I got put off and lost interest in conversing with him further during the trip.
But after the dinner, i opened with ‘what do you think about Triple Talaq’?
The Driver: ‘Iss galath sawaal ko mea kya jawaab doon?
I did not know what to make of it. After about 30-40seonds i once again plodded.
“aap TT ke khilaaf hai yaa saath?’
‘I confirmed that he is a Muslim (was a clear muslim name, nevertheless i wanted to be sure).
‘aap kya Bangladesh se or India se’
Patna se. My parents live there still.
I continued on TT.
What’s wrong with TT?
Sir. I am not only a husband. I am also a father to my daughter, son to a mother, brother to a sister. How can i turn a blind eye to them.
My eyes went a little moist; there was a small gasp of breath and i hoped he did not notice me.
Supposing the Government brings about a law to get rid of TT, would you support it?
‘If there are 25 others in the Mohalla who are for it, i cannot oppose it alone in public. It is difficult. There are some people who are taking signatures from ladies to present before court evidence against doing away with TT. But what use it is, when most of them are putting their thumb impressions. They cannot read or understand what is written. They simply over power them into signing. Even so, i have told ladies in my house not to sign any such petition and tell them to wait till i get back home. I will tell them what the paper says. I know from their small talk that almost all ladies in the Mohalla are against TT. If my ladies are also against it, let it get it reflected.
How many families are there in your mohalla – 25? or more?
There are 83 families.
How many such divorces TT have taken place so far in your lifetime in your Mohalla?
‘Three. He was jigging his memory. In all cases, the husbands were bevdas, who used to while away their time thru the day and when there was no food when they returned, maar peet.
‘TT is a responsible provision and meant to be used responsibly. And ladies are also given option to ask for compensation for living maintenance. TT is meant to be used only against betrayal, proven acts of infidelity, or where they just cannot be compatible. It is meant to be done after all counselling by mohalla elders fails. Not that you had 10 years, sired some kids and things become difficult just dump them and go.
‘How many people in your Mohalla live with more than one wife?’
What do the ladies do after TT.
They go back to their parents if they are live and able to support them. In some cases the male siblings support them In most cases in our community, they start working as domestic servants cleaning utensils, household work, baby sitting etc. But some are left in the lurch.
How many children you have?
Two – one is in class 3 and the other too young to go to school.
He himself has studied upto 7th (fail) in Hindi medium and his wife is a 10th pass.
Changing topic, how is Didi doing.
‘Buss woh hi goondagurdhi what CPM was doing but saath saath some good work also’.
What do you think of Modi.
‘Sincere fellow trying to do something. At least not messing up things’.
Will he come from WB next time.
No chance. Didi knows how to manage them. She will ensure he does not come from here.
PS: during the SBI Dinner i met some industrialists who once again reiterated that big industry can never come up in WB. But in the last 2 years, the Jute industry has come up very well. Although it is not creating as many jobs as previously, it has created additional 2 lacs jobs in the last 2-3 years. That’s a hell of a lot of primary employment. But i could not figure out what the sudden surge in demand for Jute products.